Throughout high-school people say that once you're out, everyone is much more mature. Not as much drama and stupidity. I only half agree. Yes, people are more grown up, but I think that that comes with a whole new world of happenings. Just more adult-y happenings. Instead of someone being upset that they can't go out this weekend because they got in trouble for grades or disobeying their parents in some way, someone is upset because maybe someone hooked up with someone's ex-lover or someone realized how incredibly fake some people can be.
I, personally, try to veer away from people I don't get "good vibes" from for my own well-being. But, when you're from a small town like me, it's hard to avoid every single situation. Especially when everyone seems to find out everything about everyone's lives.
But, there is always going to be that one person that sticks out. Normally, that one girl. But that one boy or girl who is the Queen (or King) of everyone else's lives. Obviously, they know best about your life. Even more than you do, right? Well, at least she (or he) thinks so anyway. That person is going to frustrate you more than you can ever imagine. It's hard to let someone like that's words go right in one ear and out the other. It's very hard. Especially when you're my age still learning about yourself and who you want to be. Most of the time it goes in one ear and floats around your brain for a while, taking its sweet time, letting maybe one or two words slip out the other ear every once in a while until one day the time that has passed will let the thought completely disappear. I believe that it doesn't make you weak when this happens to you. People rely so much on other people, what they think, and even just communication from one person to another now-a-days that if we didn't have people telling us all of their opinions and criticisms, even the ones about our lives, something wouldn't feel right and we would end up thinking that they're holding back and we would want to know more. Although, what a world that would be... without being harshly criticized by someone who has no say in your life. I think that sounds great! But like I said, I don't think it makes you weak when the words of other's bothers you to a point where you could get so upset that you either want to cry or punch someone. I actually believe it can make you stronger. Every time you go through these situations you get a little more wise. Every time, you start to realize that people are going to say what they are going to say and you're going to realize how much you hate the emotions that you start to feel to the point where you never want to feel them again. Once you realize this a little more each time one of these situations comes along, you will slowly start to care less and less because you'll start to focus on how happy you want to be, and probably are, thinking your own opinions rather than believing the opinions of others.
So, next time the Queen (or King) starts to convince you that they know better, don't believe them. No one but you knows what's best for you. Hey, you can even look at it as a blessing - this critical person is making you stronger.
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